3 Key Steps to Successfully Asking a Woman Out on a Date
No matter how cool and suave you may be, when that critical moment arrives in which you must bite the bullet and go for broke in asking a woman out on a date, there will be that moment of uncertainty. That moment in which you do not know whether she will say “yes” or “no.”
We’ve all been there and we know how stressful that can be. Imagine if there was a method which would give you the best odds possible for her to say “yes.” Would that be something of interest to you?
We’re not saying that we are the holders of some ancient magical secret that will allow you to seduce women at will. We’re good but not that good. What we can offer you, however, are three key steps that you should follow in your preparation for asking a woman out. When applied properly, they can greatly improve your chances.
1- Proper Timing
We start off with the importance of proper timing because it involves the actual moment in which you pop the question. Don’t break out into a panic sweat, we’re still talking about dating not marriage.
The problem that some men have in timing the proper moment to ask a woman out on a date is that it can vary greatly. There isn’t one set answer. It depends on many variables. Everything from your personality and demeanor to her personality and demeanor. The setting that you are in, the stage in your lives — all of those things and countless others come into play when determining the proper time.
If proper timing is so difficult to ascertain, does that mean that you should just throw caution to the wind and ask her out on a whim? The simple answer to that would be no.
While you do not want to become some robotic and highly methodical individual that loses his spontaneity and originality, you do want to be calculating and effective. The best way to achieve this is not to linger around the notion of finding the perfect time, rather you should focus on avoiding the bad time to ask her for a date.
The times to avoid include moments in which she is emotionally stressed, moments in which she cannot focus or concentrate on your question — situations that can make her feel like you’re placing her on the spot.
As far as how much time should pass between the first time you meet a woman and when you ask her out… well, once you have understood and are in compliance with the two additional tips that follow, you should be good to go. There is no “waiting time” rule that is in effect when it comes to asking a woman out.
2- Make Yourself Enthralling and Interesting
When you are attracted to a woman it is normal to want to approach her and win her over with your charm. For some men being charming and enthralling comes quite naturally. For others, however, a little work and preparation are required.
In order for you to be able to stand a good chance at a woman accepting your date invitation, you need to appeal to her sense of curiosity and attraction. You want to look your best and bring forward at least one of your positive attributes.
These attributes could be physical, intellectual, or personality-driven. Hey, we all have different strengths. For some men showing off their stunning physique can be just the thing to peak a woman’s interest. For others, maybe their knowledge about a particular cultural or academic issue will stir a woman’s heart. Yet for others, it may be as simple as being witty and urbane.
The important thing is to be aware that all men have at least one positive attribute — something which can legitimately make them stand out from the crowd. Whatever that positive attribute happens to be for you, play it out to its fullest. Don’t fall into the trap of feeling like you have nothing to offer. Just look around you, dude. You will always see guys that are dating women that, on the surface, may seem to be out of their league. Trust us, they have accomplished that feat not by lingering in self-doubt, they did so by putting their best attribute forward and taking a shot.
3- Be Ready With the Follow-Through
Many guys have the uncanny knack to turn a yes into a no. They manage to get as far as catching the woman’s attention, actually having her want to be asked out, but they muck it up on the delivery or the lack of a proper follow-through.
Some men, due to personal insecurities, leave the actual invitation to a date and time so ambiguous that the woman is not certain if she was being asked out or not. Other men get as far as actually asking her out, but when she responds in the affirmative, he doesn’t follow-through immediately. Instead of having a time and a place already in mind, they just leave it as a, “yeah, okay, well…. then… I’ll give you a call or you call me…”
This is why it is important to have a confident delivery when you are asking her out. It is also why you need to have your follow-through ready the moment she says “yes.” The confidence is necessary because you want to make sure that she understands that she is being asked out. Also, the majority of women use the amount of confidence that a man exudes as a major determining factor as to whether or not they want to go out with them.
As with golf or tennis, in asking women out if your follow-through sucks, you are going to have a bad time at it.
— It’s Just That Easy —
By following these three steps before asking a woman out, you will find that the process becomes much easier and stress-free. There will still be those moments when you will get shot down, but the will become fewer. You will find that being better-prepared will make you seem like a “good catch” in the eyes of women and that will allow you to reap all of the rewards that follow.
