Everyone loves a guide. Following steps in order to achieve a result is somehow very satisfying. We decided to create a local sex guide that will get pretty much anyone laid. In this guide, we’ll show you exactly what steps you need to take to start meeting real locals that are looking for casual sex in your city. Although the steps may seem common and simple, the magic lies behind the little things we’ll be doing along the way. Do not glance over the guide thinking it’s the same old strategy. Take the time to read it carefully and follow the steps. You’ll be rewarded with many nights of uninhibited bliss if you do things right. Grab a coffee, put on your thinking caps, and let’s get to work.
Summary of the steps required to Find Local Sex
- Registration (3m)
- Upgrade (5m)
- Profile Building (45m Minutes)
- Refined Search (15m)
- Contact (20m)
Step by Step Guide to Find Local Sex
Step 1 – Registration Process – 3 Minutes
We’ve reviewed nearly three hundred dating platforms over the past 2 years. We continuously use these sites in order to see how our profiles are doing and whether or not we need to make any changes to our reviews. Out of all the sites we reviewed, 35 adult hookup sites were deemed worthy of joining. The top rated site, however, was AdultFriendFinder. We continuously are able to find real local matches every time we sign into our account. With more than 80 million members worldwide it’s quite easy to do if you follow our guide.
AdultFriendFinder has been around since the nineties. Some of you were probably still in diapers when AFF entered the scene. They’ve got the experience, a large enough user database, and the reputation to be considered by many the very best adult dating site available when it comes to finding real local sex partners online.
The initial registration process is quite simple and it should take you about 3 minutes to complete. All you need to do is enter your gender, the gender of the person you’re looking to hook up with, your date of birth, and your location.
Next, you’ll need to enter a valid e-mail address, a username, a password, and an introduction title. Get a little creative with your username and especially with your introduction title.
Upon completing the registration process, you’ll need to confirm your email address. This process is self-explanatory. Just head over to the email account you entered during registration and click the link in the email they sent you.
Now that your email account is verified, you can proceed to the next step.
Step 2 – Upgrade – 5 Minutes
You should now be presented with a payment page.
Decide which plan suits you best and how you want to proceed. You can skip the payment page if you’d like to tour the site a little first. Take some time to see who is registered in your city, who is online, and whether these people are of any interest to you. If you find suitable matches that are online and you are prepared to pay for an upgrade, you can always come back to this page.
If your budget simply does not allow you to proceed to a paid membership, you can head on over to our post of the best free hookup sites or you can save yourself some time and join Badoo which is the best free option to find hookups. This guide has been created to use with AdultFriendFinder but maybe you’ll be lucky enough to score on one of the free options.
If you can afford a few bucks, using the guide with AdultFriendFinder is a no-brainer. You simply can’t fail if you do everything right.
When you select the plan that suits you best, you’ll be given the option to enhance your plan with standard contacts. Basically, what this does, is it allows you to contact and receive messages from members that have not upgraded. It’s an added bonus for sure but it is not necessary. If your pockets are deep enough and you can easily afford the enhancement, go for it. It’ll give you a huge edge. Why? The women that have signed up and have not upgraded will only be able to contact members that have opted for the enhancement. You’ll have a huge edge over the men that haven’t added the enhancement because they won’t be able to reach any of the free members. It’s definitely going to help speed up the process of finding real local sex partners.
Once you’re done with the upgrade, you should have full access to the website and all of its features. Let’s move on to the next step.
Step 3 – Profile Building – 45 Minutes
This is where the magic happens. This is where we’ll get a huge edge over all the other male members. It’s quite common to hear people complaining about dating sites. You hear it all the time. “So and so dating site is no good. No one wants to meet up with me” etc. The #1 reason people fail to meet anyone, even on a site as popular as AFF, is because they fail to properly build their profile. We’ve talked about the importance of a solid profile on our site many times. This is the difference between getting laid on a regular basis using AdultFriendFinder, and being an unhappy customer. If you follow this step properly, not only will you be getting tons of replies from the females you contact, but you’ll also be receiving multiple messages from members you haven’t contacted. We are going to properly follow this step to ensure the largest possible exposure on AFF.
Head on over to your profile. Just click your username on the top right and select your profile.
You should see this page.
Click on edit profile information.
That will bring up the following screen.
This is what will take up the majority of our time but we simply can’t skip over this if you want to achieve optimal results. If you’re detailed enough here, I assure you, not only will you get replies, but every time you log into your AdultFriendFinder account, you’ll find messages from real locals that are interested in hooking up with you. The search function on AFF is very powerful, and we want to appear in as many results as possible. This is the reason many people fail to meet anyone even on a powerful site like AFF.
Fill out all the fields in your basic profile personal information, and physical information tabs.
In the additional questions field, you want to be as thorough as possible. This is also going to help us appear more often in the search results. Not only will it help us get more exposure, but it will also help us get more replies. Women tend to spend quite a bit of time on a man’s profile. The more information we give them, the better our odds of having something in common and getting a reply.
Take the purity test as well. This consists of 100 questions. Answering these is as simple as ticking a box. It will only take you a few minutes and it will give our profile even more exposure.
It’s time to add some photos and videos. This is going to play a big role in our success. You want to add 5-10 photos and a couple of videos if possible. You’re allowed to include nudes here if you’d like. AFF is an adult community that promotes nudity. However, there’s a catch. On your profile picture, you don’t want to include any nudity. Why? As you may have noticed if you’ve navigated the site a little, a lot of the profile pics are not showing. This is because they contain nudity. The default option is set to “Hide Nudity”. So new members will not be able to see your profile photo unless they change their settings. That being said, here’s how you can change your settings to include nudes in your searches to expand your search.
Click on your profile name on the top right. Set Content Filter to “Show Everything”.
Now that that’s done, let’s go back to uploading our photos.
Face pics are definitely going to help you achieve optimal results. Hiding your face can hinder your chances of accomplishing your goals on AFF. We want to include recent photos here that are well lit. A smile goes a long way. We want to appear approachable and safe to meet. Avoid taking a photo in the dark. We want bright, clear pictures here. You can include sexy photos and even nudes. However, in our experience, Di*kpics don’t do very well. It’s always a good thing to leave some things to the imagination. It would be much better if she asks for these types of photos during your back and forths. Play the game. Nudes are fine, but tasteful nudes will get things going in a big way.
The same goes for videos.
It’s time to get verified. Having a verified profile will launch your visibility even further. There are two ways to verify your profile. You can either upload a picture of yourself holding up a sign with your username on it, or you can upload the required documents. The choice is yours. We strongly urge you to take the time to get your profile verified.
We’re done with this section of our profile. It’s time to add some kinks to our profile.
Go back to your profile page and click on EDIT my kinks. You’ll be presented with this page.
You want to be honest here and put up all the kinks you’re into. There is a special kink search feature that is very popular on AFF. We want our profile to appear here as well.
As you’ve probably realized by now, it is extremely important to get as much exposure to our profile as possible. We want your inbox to be flooded with messages every time you log into your account. This is the difference between loving or hating this site. And we want you to be as successful as possible.
You’re done with setting up your profile. It was a little time-consuming, maybe even frustrating at times, but you’ve got a profile you can be proud of. You should start appearing often in the search results which will bring in tons of requests even if you don’t move on to the next steps. However, there’s no point in sitting around waiting. Let’s keep going.
Step 4 – Refined Search – 15 Minutes
Let’s head over to the “Search Feature” of AdultFriendFinder. If you’re seeing photos that are blurred and have the words “NAUGHTY PHOTO” on them, you missed a step in our guide. You need to hit your profile name on the top right and set the “Content Filter” to “Everything”. We’ll wait for you.
You can search for members using various search engines that are available on AdultFriendFinder. However, using the “Advanced Search” feature will give you more control over who you’d like to hook up with.
There are many filters you can play with on the advanced search feature. If you’re located in a big city that has a large population, you can get very detailed in your searches in order to zone in on the perfect candidates. However, if you’re in a smaller city, with fewer members available to you, you’re better off leaving most filters untouched.
Here are the filters available to you.
The filters that are important in order to succeed with our guide are:
- Distance – Keep this at a minimum of 50 miles. Again, if you’re in a very populated city, you can lower this even further.
- Members Online Now. This is very important. With the immense size of AFF’s user database, there’s no point in contacting members that are offline. We don’t know when or if they’ll ever see our messages. We want to hook up and we want to hook up right now.
That’s it. If there is something you simply can’t do without, include it in your filter settings.
If you’ve used other sites that are geared towards finding local sex, you’ll be pleasantly surprised by the results returned to you. AFF has a database of more than 80 million people which is why we constantly encourage our readers to use it as their go-to site for adult hookups.
Step 5 – Contact – 20 Minutes
Time to finally get in touch with some members. Go through the members that you’ve been presented with through your search. If you’re picky, you may need a little more time than someone who isn’t as picky. We’re going to be contacting multiple members, one at a time. Whatever you do here, do NOT send a generic message that you copy paste to each one. This is not going to work well. We want to take it a step further and do a little research before contacting them. Go through their profile. Check out their interests and their kinks. If you see something you’ve got in common, use that to craft your initial message. This will not only get their attention, but it will also show them that you’ve taken the time to check our what they’ve written. It shows effort and it really goes a long way in terms of response rate. We prefer to go with a message rather than just a flirt. Flirts work well too but sending a personalized message based on something you discovered on their profile works best.
Don’t send a message and sit on it. Send out multiple messages. Don’t let rejection get you down. It’s normal when it comes to online dating considering the many options we are all presented with. Keep sending out those messages and you’re sure to start receiving replies. If you’ve followed everything in our guide, you won’t simply receive replies from the people you’ve contacted, but you will also be appearing in all the search results. This will be bringing in messages and flirts from people we haven’t contacted.
The rest is up to you. Now that you’re in direct contact with them, all you have to do is be yourself. One thing that we must stress is the importance of establishing trust. We’ve mentioned this multiple times but I feel it’s important to mention it again here. Women are a little more hesitant to hook up than men are. There is an element of danger that men take for granted. If you’re able to establish trust, you’re well on your way to enjoying a night of uninhibited passion. Suggest meeting in public at first, don’t invite them back to your place right away. Give them a chance to get to know you a little. This will go a long way when it comes to them making a decision on whether or not you’re safe to meet. Be prepared to provide them with whatever it takes in order to gain their trust. If you verified your membership with your ID, this can be a great way to start.