Meeting Someone After Online CyberSex
I rushed into cybersex with a person I met online. Now we are considering meeting in person. How can I avoid the awkwardness? Let me start by saying that I am not new to cybersex. As a matter of fact, I find it to be fun and convenient. Never, however, have I ever taken the giant leap of meeting face to face someone with whom I had a cybersex encounter. This is what makes my present situation unusual. The person I met online is single, attractive, and we have an intense affinity for all things sexual. Originally I thought our relationship would be strictly an online affair. To make a long story short, this person has become insistent on meeting in person. I am torn between accepting or rejecting this opportunity. Will our online intimacy create awkwardness if we meet? If a relationship comes out of this, will it be based solely on sex? Should I go for it?
Well, believe it or not, you are not the first person to encounter this type of situation.
What is important here is for you to establish your comfort zone. By this we mean, would you be okay with the possibility that a face-to-face meeting might end in nothing — zilch, nada? That is a very real possibility. It is possible that the intense intimacy that you have developed online will not translate to the real world.
Then again, if during your online encounters you have managed to develop not only physical intensity but also trust and conversation — there might be a chance for something more solid to come out of a personal meeting.
To be honest, the only way to find out would be to take the leap. That said, however, ground rules must be established before you meet. Make certain that the both of you agree on what to expect out of the first meeting. If one goes in expecting a sexual encounter and the other goes in expecting to grow sentimental attachments — obviously that will not end well.
Make sure you are both on the same page before meeting. Our advice would be to keep the first meeting as casual as possible. Think along the lines of a casual dinner and drinks. Let the date be structured enough so that it feels like a real date, but also keep it fluid enough to allow your mutual chemistry to influence what it develops into.
