How Can I Convince My Girlfriend to Have a Threesome?

I’ve been dating the same woman for almost a year now. I feel that we get along great. We haven’t discussed any long-term plans for the relationship but I think that we are on a solid footing. I would describe us both as having a very healthy sexual appetite. I really dig the fact that she is very open sexually. In that area, I do not have any complaints. The topic of threesomes has come up and she has expressed curiosity about them. When I’ve tried to make them a reality, however, she has always balked. I don’t feel like I’m forcing the issue. After all, she has said that the idea turns her on. We have talked about it in a positive and enthusiastic way. What can I do to convince her to make it a reality?

El Trio

Dear El Trio,

We hear you, man. A threesome can be a spectacular thing.

When your girlfriend hints at the possibility of being open to the idea, it is perfectly normal for you to get excited about it. However, you should never assume that an expressed curiosity is a genuine call to action.

Difference Between Fantasy and Reality

Human sexuality studies and polling conducted on the subject of threesomes with women indicate that over 70 percent have thought about the idea of being involved in a threesome. This includes MFM, FMF, and FFF.

Of those 70 percent, half indicate that, similar to your girlfriend, they would be open to the idea if the right opportunity arises.

When it comes to actually getting involved in a threesome, the numbers drop even further. Not to drown you in statistics, but of women who are sexually active, less than 10 percent report having been involved in a threesome of any combination at least once.

In other words, the idea of a threesome is a very popular theme in the sexual fantasies of women. Few, however, make it a reality.

This is not to say that your girlfriend will never actually participate in one. You should, however, not assume that her fantasy will translate to reality.

Never Trick or Pressure

As much as you want for a threesome to become a reality, don’t be an a-hole and pressure your girlfriend into it simply because she expressed curiosity about it.

Don’t try to trick her into a threesome either. The best thing that you could do is keep the topic open as long as she expresses an interest in it. Don’t apply deadlines.

Let her know that she has full control over whether it happens or not. Also, reassure her that you are fine if it never happens. Additionally, if it were to happen, make certain that she has full control in the selection of the third person to be involved. Using adult hookup sites or hookup apps is an excellent way to browse potential partners together. Our personal favorite for threesomes is AdultFriendFinder.

This may not be the answer that you were hoping for, but, in our opinion, it is the best path for you to follow.