As human beings, we need air to breathe, water to drink, and food to eat in order to survive. To thrive, we need companionship, fun, and romance. Perhaps this is why in the world of dating the concept of the romantic dinner is so central to establishing the health and future of a relationship.
Think about it, sharing a meal together is one of the most intimate things that two people can do. It brings you into close proximity to each other allowing you to share unguarded moments of close interaction and conversation. If you look at it from an anthropological angle, it is also one of the most feral ways for two people to demonstrate a mutual interest in one another.
Imagine yourself in the position of one of our ancestors tens or hundreds of thousands of years in the past. Food back then wasn’t something that you could order off a menu or pull out of your fridge. It took effort to catch and prepare. Sharing food was something that you would do only with those closest to you. If you wanted to win the affection of a potential partner, allowing them access to your food supply was a very effective way of breaking the ice.
Okay, so fast forward to the present. There you are in a romantic setting either at a restaurant or in your home. You want to impress your partner. What are the do’s and don’ts about food and romance?
1- DO know your partner’s favorite foods
Knowing what foods your partner has a preference for and, more importantly, which foods they absolutely detest is very important. Some might say that it is up there with knowing their birthday, favorite color, and favorite song.
Knowing which foods are your partner’s favorites will allow you to choose the right restaurant. It will also give you an advantage whenever you want to give them a special treat, such as showing up with their favorite dessert if you need to make a peace offering when you forgot, let’s say, your three month anniversary.
2- DON’T force your personal taste for food on your partner
We know, to you sushi is the best thing in the world. You love it so much that you feel that it is one of your missions in life to become a sushi evangelist.
If your partner shares your passion for sushi, no problem. Even if your partner is simply indifferent toward sushi, you might be able to get away with serving sushi on a regular basis. However, if your partner detests sushi (or any other food) and you continuously try to push it on them it is obvious that they are going to push back.
This does not mean that you need to avoid your favorite foods if your partner hates them. It only means that you should not force them, trick them, or otherwise try to get them to enjoy it the way that you do. Otherwise, it can become a wedge issue.
3- DO be open to new culinary experiences
You should be open to new culinary experiences suggested by your partner. To continue with our sushi example from above, if you’ve never tasted sushi and your partner suggests it, you should be willing to try it at least once.
That being said, if you are the partner suggesting the new culinary experience you should also have a back-up plan ready in case your partner truly does not care for sushi. This way you will come off as both daring and caring.
4- DON’T eat anything that is messy or prone to cause bad breath
Allow us to be more specific. During the early stages of your relationship, especially the first three or four dates, avoid eating anything that can be considered as messy or gross in front of your partner. The same holds true for pungent ingredients that could linger in your mouth when the time comes for a kiss.
This means avoiding barbecued ribs, chicken wings, onion rings, garlic — you get to the idea. Don’t worry, if the relationship blossoms pretty soon you’ll be able to eat all the messy foods that you want together. Hell, you can even feed yourselves boneless chicken wings dipped in a nacho and garlic sauce to each other while sitting in a bubble bath.
In other words, don’t bring messy foods to the table until your relationship has advanced to the second or third level of trust and comfort with one another. If you already fart in each other’s presence without being embarrassed, then it would be safe to say that you can eat a rotisserie chicken with your bare hands together without any issue.
5- DO prepare a meal for your partner
Eating out is great but it can also be expensive. Preparing a home-cooked meal for your partner can not only be a huge cost saver but it can also be very romantic. It allows you to show off your creative and attentive side. It will demonstrate how much you care for them.
Before doing so, however, you should be knowledgeable of their likes and dislikes so that you can prepare a menu that will be a hit. Of course, don’t forget about all of the ancillary preparations such as candlelight, mood music, and lighting.
6- DON’T be critical of their cooking style
If your partner takes on the trouble of preparing a meal for you the last thing that you should do is go all Gordon Ramsay on them if it didn’t come out quite to your standards.
This is especially true if it is one of the first meals that your partner is preparing for you. A good rule of thumb is to grin and bear as you eat it. Otherwise, you will certainly hurt your partner’s feelings and that is something that you definitely want to avoid.
Mind you, this doesn’t mean that you must condemn yourself to an eternity of eating food that you do not like. If the relationship doesn’t go anywhere, problem solved. If the relationship does take off, in very short order you will be in a position of trust where making such critiques will not be received so badly. Besides, it’s quite possible that after the honeymoon phase of a relationship is over your partner will not be cooking for you so frequently.
— Wrapping It Up —
Aside from sex, eating together is one of the most personal and intimate things that you will share with your partner. Therefore, just as there are common sense do’s and don’ts for sex, make sure to remember the do’s and don’ts for eating together.